The two faces of Confidence

Psychology says that the most common way to start a conversation between two people is starting a topic about a third person. And its even true. Start analysing it in everyday life and you will find it true that even you would start talking to someone about some third person.

Now the topic maybe anything. It may be the dressing style or the way they represent themselves. Some past history they had or any recent incident. It may be anything.

Now, let me tell you the bitter truth about this very famous habit. This habit is the first glance of someone who is highly under-confident.

Yes! Its true.

Its not only about 'starting the conversation' its also about the topic which we are talking on. In our comfortable language, it is often referred to as ' back-bitching'.

Ohh, girls... they love this, gossips are they inseparable part.

Come on, now i am being very blunt... you say you are living in the 21st century, accept the fact that boys of this era are too not leaving any chance of back- bitching!!
(I experienced)

So now, let's not hide our faces and accept that we all are 'under-confident' and this habit is now a day to day activity for us.

But wait!

What if you are appreciating someone?? That's seriously not being a coward.
So you see, there is a very very fine line between this ..

When you are talking ill and unwanted stuff about someone, you are actually showing them how they are so superior to you. They are having everything that you dont have, and you are showing off your  jealousy. You show how under-confident you are with what you have and how much you desire to be like that person.

Now, attend the other case, when you appreciate someone, behind their back, it actually somewhere shows that you respect and love everything you have, and you are happy to appreciate others of their blessings.

Suppose in a party someone walks past you wearing a beautiful outfit, you tell your friend about how that dress is attracting you and how that person fits so well in it. You show your positive vibes in this manner. It won't be counted as 'under-confidence' then, it would be stated that you have that incredible ability to make people feel happy but you are just not able to convey your message to them.

And now imagine, you say ill about one of your friends during his/her absence. In some way he/she gets to know your statement. The result is the sourness in your relationship with them.

Whereas, you compliment your colleague, and they would give you a nice big smile with a blush. Yes you accomplished to make someone smile!

Now you have to choose that either you want to

enhance your confidence by stop talking bad about anyone,

OR,

increase your confidence to compliment someone's activity to make them also feel confident in what they are doing.

Have a happy and confident day!

The Big Bungalow

The big bungalow stood there
My pride, it showed to everyone
The hardwork for past 20 years
And the blessings of the mighty one

I was 19 when i started off
For attaining the title of Rich
Day and night i fought for it
To never get off that pitch

I made my group and entered
A few of the men under me
All were dedicated for the work
But... i never got any satisfactory

I bought myself a bungalow
My pride, it showed to everyone
The hardwork for past 20 years
And the blessings of the mighty one

Slowly slowly, i fastened my pace
My bank account beginning for praise
The most expensive car was next
My checklist for another pinch of grace

Then i married the most gorgeous
Alas! She knew nothing more than beauty
But i never cared for that matter
As far i knew, i had one more of a duty

I lived in a fantasy of richness
Spending my dollar like a mad
Saved not single penny
And treated my men like insane

I earned and i spent
On Champaign, Wine and beer
On beauty and on shares
Check! Gambling was so dear!

It was 20th of march in winters
The calender marked it Friday
That was when i lost the biggest bet
When gambling dear, promised the worst day

That was the day I lost everything i had
Only left with an empty bungalow
My darling had left me alone
And my workmen left quiet ago

Atleast i was left with a shelter
To hide myself and my tears
Grieve whole life for the wrong i did
And hide it under the blanket of pearls

I remembered how i escaped from house
To find the best job to earn
I never listened to my father's love
And never understood why he stopped

My mother wished i become an artist
My paintings were always her love
But i had always earned for money
Killing all the dreams my parents saw

I realized how wrong i did
To all the dedicated workmen i had
Punishing them, to cool down my aggression
Without no fault they listened. How bad!

All i thought was only of money
Nothing before that, nothing beyond that
And now i had to live all by myself
No love to wipe the tears, no shoulder to cry

The big bungalow stood there
All my mistakes it showed to all
The wrong i did for past 20 years
Selling it off now,what a great fall!!

The big bungalow stood there
It sheltered a happy family now,
I stood there, infront of it
With a palate and a white paper to draw....

Shambhavi

Taking It For Granted

This is a real incident I experienced recently...

The spring has begun, and there is a great refreshment in our mind. The beauty of flowers freshens up and fragrance attracts us more. Spring has always brought positivity with it that helps us to get a fresh start of the year after lazy winters.

It was a lovely evening when the sun was ready to set, leaving the sky yellow and orange. I went out for a walk as the cold breeze was pleasant enough to give the hectic day a refreshing break. I didn't know that time that this one walk is going to give me a life long lesson...

While returning back home, I saw a shop. Many people were standing there buying some grocery. Amongst them, I saw a man, he must be in his 30's. Shyly standing on the corner, waiting for his turn. He wore shabby clothes. Cream coloured dirty shirt and faded pants. Even the slippers were worn out. Then my attention went to the little girl with him. She looked like 3-4  year old, with brown dirty hair, like they were never washed. Her body was badly tanned. She wore no slippers, just a shabby frock. I realized she was that man's daughter when she called him 'papa'.

The shopkeeper was busy with all other buyers, and due to his shyness and absence of confidence, the man couldn't ask loudly for a packet of chips for his daughter. I decided to go ahead and help them out. Unlike other poor children, not even once did the poor girl ask for a penny from me. She just looked at me quietly, and then looked at the packet of chips, hugged her father's leg and asked him one more time to buy her a packet.

It seemed as if the father had brought her daughter with him to let her decide what she needs and was still trying his best to ask for it. Due to the crowd, his turn did come, but very late. Unfortunately, the chips and chocolates had finished. I saw him taking out all the money he had and count if they were able to buy a large packet of chips for his daughter. But the poor man had not enough to even add 2 penny extra.

On the other hand, a child next to me bought a large sized packet of chips opened the packet and tasted the chips. Very roughly, he threw the packet on the road as he didn't like the taste.
The little girl left her dad, and ran to pick up the packet from the road. I saw her father standing helpless as he didn't have money nor could he again make his daughter go empty hand.
I ran towards the girl and brought her back holding her tiny hands. I bought a large sized packet of chips for her to see her smile. She bid my goodbye, giving a lovely smile, hugging her father tightly.

While leaving, the shopkeeper told me that the father used to come to her shop every weekend to buy something for her 'only' daughter. She told me they are very poor and the man saves everyday to buy something for his daughter to see her smile.

True, parents can do wonders for their child. But its also true that somewhere we take everything for granted, be it our family, our belongings, our assets or our relationships. Like the little girl was longing to eat a small packet of chips, the boy threw the whole big packet.
We don't know the actual worth of things, we have.

As human starts to slowly taste the essence of progress, he also starts to forget the value of things that made him achieve that progress...
When we don't realize the value of things we have, we face a point of loneliness when they are no more. Its true we take our parents' love for granted, but what if we go far away from them? No one can pamper us like they do, no one can love us like they did. We take our friendships for granted, but when our friend leaves us, its then when we realise their is no one to share the good and bad moments with. Instead of creating a void of regrets in your heart, cherish every moment and value every thing you have in life!
This little innocent girl, left with a big smile on her face in her daddy's arms, making me realize the value of things I took for granted. This spring, the innocence of the girl and the love of her father made me learn the value of everything and every person in my life...

Happy Easter!

When You Finally Find Yourself

I was on an unstable ground
pebbles and sand rushed under my feet
barren, cold stillness was all I found
the dullness was forcing me to scream

I was left in utter silence
because of the wrong that happened till now
the darkness beneath was shaking me till core
I couldn't see any path ahead to follow

all I discovered, was my life STILL
as far as my eyes went to see
the cold, dark desert was all I had
no creature visible to sigh by me.

the tears rushed out of my eyes
and reaching my cheeks, they tend to dry
just like the rain droplets, from the sky
meets the desert, destined to dry

I walked alone with barren feet
the loneliness killed my heart and mind
all I was able to see around me
was the desert stillness and cold dry breeze.

I lost all hopes to stand up again
the girl who never gave up, broke herself
regretting towards the step she took
and now she lost the battle. How sad!

through utter darkness, I saw some light
my eyes wide open and my heartbeat delight!
I saw a figure, an unearthly attraction
in fairy white, it came to my sight.

with a motherly affection, it held my hand
guiding me, he made me stand
the next I remember was, me with him
walking along the white light film

he took me to a sea shore
leaving my hand and walking besides
there was something so unusual in him
the love and care, I forgot everything

he kept his hand on my head..
Remember! I still couldn't see his face!
just like a father, he caressed me
and finally asked me, "At last! for what did you chase?"

the voice was something straight from my heart
I bent my head low, and said
"I wanted that "destiny" to be mine..
just the way I had wanted it to be kept!"

"look through, what you did in past!
don't you think, the future stands apart?
I am the writer and you are a mere player
remove the "I" and enjoy this part!

trust me at every step of your life..
I am just next to you, just call me aside!
through every difficulty of yours, I am there
nothing to worry, your destiny is here!

do what you are bound to do..but
remember not to hurt the others
because I didn't gave you any right to cut..
their feelings, from the thread I spun"

I asked him" for what would I do,
if others hurt you night and day!
won't you do the same to them?
or sit like coward, quitting to stay!"

he smiled and kissed my forehead softly
"Child! let them do what they want
for they are doing the wrong indeed, why
should you too take their wrong way?

life I gave you, is simply to short
never keep regrets for what they say!
play and enjoy the game I gave...
and live your life, for it may go vain!!

look at the mere butterfly there
it just has to live for one short day
but take a look at the colours it spreads
and enjoys its life to the fullest it can!"

I held his mighty hands in mine
and promised not to leave them again
for my life is really short indeed
where god came to make me realize this time!

I promised him to never give up again,
because I am just a mere player of "the game"
I knew he has surprises for me ahead,
so, why not burry the tears, and smile forward again..!!

-Shaambhavi

Nick Bateman - a look at this gentleman and why he gained so much attention

Meet a boy, who had once wished to become a ninja turtle at the age of 4! it was his one passion that made him focus on a path that would make him the hottest person alive on earth! who had ever thought?? i guess even he won't have ever thought that his this wish would make him win 4 Martial Arts World titles!
guyz! this really makes him my role model.
as heard from his interviews, he is a fun loving person who is always focused on doing something that makes him happy.
Nicholas Yunge Bateman, short named as Nick Bateman, was born in Burlington Ontario, Canada. He graduated from Capilano University in Vancouver at the age of 20 and thereafter opened his own karate school.  he loved motivating children and teaching them bo-staff. yeah! Bo-staff is really his one of the most favourate hobby ( and he looks super cute though)!! he got an offer for acting and he thereafter closed the school to experience a whole new world of acting!

So, ever wondered why is he capturing more, more, more and more hearts of everyone who watches him. Let's find it out

1. A great Fan following on instagram!
   currently Mr. Bateman is having a following of nearly 4.5 million people. his favourate moto... "NO PANTS ARE THE BEST PANTS" has gone viral. he has got a very big fan following not only Canada but also in north america, mexico Miami etc. he tries to share all his day to day moment with his fans and keep them entertained
   
2. Martial Ats Champion!
   Nicholas Bateman is a master in martial arts which can attract anyone. his list of medals and awards is very very long and this makes him beloved among his fan. having done masters in one art and then trying successfully among other streams is itself an art and it requires a lot of efforts.
   
3. A Scorpio
   born on 18 November, Nick is a Scorpio by his sun sign, and Scorpios have always proved to be super sexy and admiring! no doubt, Nick has got a great attracting aura in him giving a mysterious yet a soft look by itself
   
   
   
   
4. Lady love maria
   it is said "Behind every successful man is a woman" and Nick has proved that. Nick's lady love, model Maria Corrigon is a diva. they have been dating for almost 6 years and are a really lovely couple. recently seen at the Oscar party, Maria was looking beautiful in her blue dress.
   
5. Thanks to his Abs and Gym
   A big pot of Martial arts + five big spoons of passion for acting + 10 big spoons of Modelling, all the fitness regime of Mr. Bateman has made his hotness touch a higher level!! the six pack abs and the cuteness have proved to be a great combo. He is 6 ft 2in and has maintained a great body till date.
   
   
   
6. Mr. Joey Bateman
   His photos are full of his baby love Joey Bateman which is a cute pup! they both share a very strong bond and have got some great shots and this Yorkshire Terrier has also got an account on Instagram with a great fan following which shoes nick's love for dogs!!
   
   
   
7. That innocent smile! Oh that serious face
   ever wondered what really makes you aw struck at his photographs? Nick has always tried to not to follow one single style. at one moment you would see a very serious and glamorous face of him in his shoots wearing a suit, and very next time, you see a shirtless pic with a simple smile on his face, and you know what, the next time you would see a pic of him doing funny things and enjoying. well guys! that Nick Bateman!
   
8. His tattoos
   tattoos are so in trend, and nick is not having just one. the tattoo art has not only helped to increase in hotness, but... okay, watch it yourself..!
   
9. A great package
   imagine, you meet a boy, he has won so many awards for martial arts, is a great teacher, has loved BO-staff, is a model at Calvin Klein, has acted in movies and is going to play a lead role for Collen Hoover's next Ugly Love! Oh my gosh! you are imaging Nick Bateman guys! yeah, now you get why he has a great combo, don't forget his hotness please!
   
10. His style
    After modelling for Calvin Klein, Nick Bateman came in limelight. following is style, he looks awesomely great in a suit and tie and equally great in track pants. his t-shirts holding "No pants are the best pants" have become so famous! in short, Nick has got a very sexy wardrobe which is a goal for many!
    
11. His mother son relation
    going through his photos, we see a great bonding of Nicholas and mother Debbie Rockwell. they have posted pictures sharing some great moments and it is very adorable to see their journey!
    
12. The upcoming ugly love
    there is no worries as my role model will soon be seen as a lead actor in upcoming collen hover's UGLY LOVE releasing this 2016! after watching the promos it is sure that Nick is ready to take away our breath and make our heart skip beats many number of times...
    Good Luck Nick Bateman!!