Psychology says that the most common way to start a conversation between two people is starting a topic about a third person. And its even true. Start analysing it in everyday life and you will find it true that even you would start talking to someone about some third person.
Now the topic maybe anything. It may be the dressing style or the way they represent themselves. Some past history they had or any recent incident. It may be anything.
Now, let me tell you the bitter truth about this very famous habit. This habit is the first glance of someone who is highly under-confident.
Yes! Its true.
Its not only about 'starting the conversation' its also about the topic which we are talking on. In our comfortable language, it is often referred to as ' back-bitching'.
Ohh, girls... they love this, gossips are they inseparable part.
Come on, now i am being very blunt... you say you are living in the 21st century, accept the fact that boys of this era are too not leaving any chance of back- bitching!!
(I experienced)
(I experienced)
So now, let's not hide our faces and accept that we all are 'under-confident' and this habit is now a day to day activity for us.
But wait!
What if you are appreciating someone?? That's seriously not being a coward.
So you see, there is a very very fine line between this ..
So you see, there is a very very fine line between this ..
When you are talking ill and unwanted stuff about someone, you are actually showing them how they are so superior to you. They are having everything that you dont have, and you are showing off your jealousy. You show how under-confident you are with what you have and how much you desire to be like that person.
Now, attend the other case, when you appreciate someone, behind their back, it actually somewhere shows that you respect and love everything you have, and you are happy to appreciate others of their blessings.
Suppose in a party someone walks past you wearing a beautiful outfit, you tell your friend about how that dress is attracting you and how that person fits so well in it. You show your positive vibes in this manner. It won't be counted as 'under-confidence' then, it would be stated that you have that incredible ability to make people feel happy but you are just not able to convey your message to them.
And now imagine, you say ill about one of your friends during his/her absence. In some way he/she gets to know your statement. The result is the sourness in your relationship with them.
Whereas, you compliment your colleague, and they would give you a nice big smile with a blush. Yes you accomplished to make someone smile!
Now you have to choose that either you want to
enhance your confidence by stop talking bad about anyone,
OR,
increase your confidence to compliment someone's activity to make them also feel confident in what they are doing.
Have a happy and confident day!
